Nick: Hi guys, thank so much for maintaining this site which is a godsend now that I’ve discovered it. We have a 6 year old on the severe side of the spectrum. The school called us to come pick him up early as he was scratching his 1 on 1 aide, as well as another student.
When I arrived the principal and his aide were calming him in a separate room. I asked if I needed to sign anything and they told me no, wasn’t a suspension, I could just take him home for the day. When I insisted on the documentation they then complied and made us wait a good 45 minutes for it.
I had been told to always get documentation for sent home early’s, as it limits it to 10 days, at which time a district intervention is required.
I signed it, but did not even think to look at the date. They tacked on an additional day.
The next day when I dropped him off, the teacher called the office and had the secretary inform me that Logan couldn’t be at school that day.
The teacher is no longer communicating with me or my wife. The relationship with the principal is beyond repair. I know she told me to my face that he just had to go home for the day to calm, but punished him an extra day because of my request for paperwork on being sent home.
Do we have options? Was my request out of line?
My relationship with my son’s school is so bad that I pulled both of them out. Now my 13 year old non-disabled child is lashing out at me and wife for pulling him out of school. He flat out hates the new school that he is attending. Does not want to join any activities or make friends there. What can I do to get him to realize that his brother 11 ED, Autism, ADHD was being harmed and that this is good change for them? He just will not listen and wants to go back to his old school but I am hesitant because of everything his brother went through? What can I do to help my non disabled child? We made it so that his friends can come over to the house and he can go their’s but that is not good enough.
A psychologist or counselor could be of help. understood.org has a lot of blogs where you can post questions like this.
Well, if your relationship is beyond repair, then it doesn’t really matter whether you were out of line. (I’ve been there.)
There is a recent guidance document about discipline lasting less than 10 days also being a serious matter: https://www2.ed.gov/policy/gen/guid/school-discipline/files/dcl-on-pbis-in-ieps–08-01-2016.pdf
When the relationship is beyond repair, sometimes it is helpful to put the child in a different school, by moving and presenting a rental agreement at an address corresponding to a different school. You could get a month-to-month rental. Once your child is settled in the other school, you could probably keep him there but discreetly move back to your house. Stay in the same district to avoid paying big bucks in tuition.