Bullying, Discipline, & Confidentiality: Who’s the Victim?

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A special education teacher asked a question about a student’s right to confidentiality after being disciplined by the school.

It is a good example of how changing the facts in a particular situation can give you a clearer perspective on the issue.

“…a child with disabilities was a victim of bullies. How much is too much information to share with another parent regarding other students..before turning the bullies into victims?”

Here’s the complete scenario:

We had a situation this year with a child with disabilities who was a victim of bullies. The bullies faced consequences including parents being called.

The parent of the child with disabilities wanted to know who the bullies were, what consequences were given, and what the meeting entailed with the parents of the bullies. Is this allowed? It felt like the bullies were now being turned into victims.

We have a clear and zero policy in our school regarding bullies. I was satisfied with the consequences given. How much is too much information to share with another parent regarding other students?

Let’s change the facts in this case. The child with disabilities who was bullied is your child. What’s your perspective, now?

  • It is your child who attended a summer camp and was severely beaten up and hospitalized by another camper.

Camp officials decline to release info about the aggressor and what steps, if any, were taken.

What is your position as the parent?

Change the facts again:

  • Your child attends a private school and was assaulted by another child at the school and is now in the hospital.

You want to press charges against the aggressor, but the private school cites confidentiality and refuses to release any information about the aggressor, including his identity.

Change the facts again:

  • Your child was assaulted at the local mall and local mall security were involved.

Should you be notified?

In those scenarios and with a public school, when any entity refuses to release information to a parent, what does the parent automatically assume? They assume that the other child is being protected, despite being the bully.

Parents have a right to know who did what to their child and what steps, if any, the school took to prevent a repetition of it. Anything less is viewed as a cover-up and opens school up to the appearance of a policy of “doing nothing” to protect children from bullies.

In Bullying, Confidentiality, & the Parents’ Need to Know, Pete and Pam answer questions about confidentiality and the parents’ need to have information about their child. Pam suggests a strategy to help the teacher understand the parent’s perceptions, concerns, and fears.

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Edie
08/05/2016 11:41 pm

Hello. My son is 3-years old and in a private school. He has been physically bullied by a 5-yo in his class. I’ve notified the school with documentation and pictures. I also sent this to his new teachers. 1st day of school and my son has come home with a grapefruit size bruise on his back from being pushed so hard he fell backwards landing on concrete and rocks. The boy then put his foot on my son’s face while he was still laying on the ground. I’m so worried what will happen next. What, if anything else can I do? I’m in Alabama

Dagmar
05/26/2016 9:54 pm

My daughter is in 4th grade and a girl put an open scissor towards her neck and told her she would take her snack otherwise…. Once my daughter told a teacher which did take her 2 weeks to tell anybody, the principal was informed. My daughter missed the next day of class since her Asthma was acting up. So I tried to get info what the school would do about it. I got to hear that they had called the girls parent and that my daughter would be safe. They had punished the girl but she would be back with my daughter in the same classroom. When I insisted that this was not appropriate I was told that the girl could not be removed from the classroom since that would be double Jeopardy. If I wanted them separated I could take my girl out of the classroom. Great! Victimizing the victim again.

Kathy
05/17/2016 1:26 pm

My son is 16 a sophomore. Since September a teacher has started bullying, mocking, making fun of. I went to school the first time it happened told principal, secretary. Never got response back. The last one my son was at school in her class, leaning on his hand. Said she went across hall got a stand like president talks at, said “get up here, bet you will listen now,” made him stand like 2-3 hours in front of class. They were staring at him, legs and back hurt. as always she wouldn’t let him go to the bathroom. I went to school demanded meeting, told principal what happened. Today my son’s principal had a meeting. After each question he was saying, it was – “well I don’t think she meant it” then the last one, “don’t you think she was helping him?” I said were done, don’t answer that, to my son.

Eric
05/15/2016 10:01 pm

Wow, couldn’t get through all of these, just terrible. Sorry i cannot provide more advice; it would take pages, but at least I can offer a positive story. My 15 year old son with FASD has been bullied and assaulted several times his first half of freshman year. I have documented everything, (used to be an attorney), held meetings, worked with my son, threatened and warned the school, etc. Fourth time my son (again) tries to avoid fight but breaks the other kid’s nose and is charged with assault. Receives lots of threats from kid’s family and other students over social media. Trial was two days ago and judge throws case out at end of State’s evidence; my son did not even have to testify as victim’s own statement showed he was the aggressor for trying to pull him down bleacher steps.

Syreeta
07/05/2016 10:10 pm

My daughter has been involved in two different fights with this one girl that is 2-3 yrs older than her. My daughter is 15. She fought back each time both times notified the school and filled out bully repor.. 2nd fight happened on the bus it was recorde.. The school didn’t know about the fight till I reported it yet agai.. Now my daughter and the other little girl is both being charged with disorderly conduct. Yes I understand fighting is not prohibited but when does my daughter get protected. She will now be in fear to defend herself because the law is if you both fight and defend yourself it’s mutual combat. Today we pleaded not guilty and is taking this to trial but being a single mom with two daughters I can not afford the legal hel.. Just looking for legal advice.

Shaw
05/02/2016 6:41 pm

My son is 16. We just recently got a diagnosis of Aspergers. He has ADHD and this was known from a young age. Ever since the Asperger diagnosis he has been called Asperger and a side of fries and retard. He has even been told to kill himself. My wife and I have stayed in director contact with the school regarding the bullying and have even given them named of the child doing it. They do it in front of the teachers. Last week one of the boys took it too far again and my son asked the teacher to make him stop she called the principal on my son. My son told them that if they wouldn’t do anything that he was going to. He told the class that the next person that called him a retard that he was going to hurt them. Ended up with that boy got a fractured cheek bone and my son 3 day suspension.

Eric
05/15/2016 10:05 pm

Call a lawyer, a therapist and a psychiatrist if you don’t have them already.

The problem is that without provocation of a physical sort, behavioral or neurological disabilities will not suffice to avoid liability for assault, though it does go to mitigation of punishment. I also put my son in martial arts with instructions to teach him out to defend himself without hurting anyone. (See my general post above.)

Alicia
04/12/2016 12:25 am

My daughter just turned 13, she in special classes because of her learning disability besides being heavy set. She is very kind hearted and only wants to make friends. This is year she is suppose to graduate from junior high. But this school year has been a nightmare. She has been bullied all year by a certain girl at her school. This girl has gone as far as to befriend other girls just to get them to beat up my daughter. So my daughter has notify the school office of everything going on so that it is noted on record. She has been suspended serveral times for defending herself against the bullies. Now the school has decided to take away my daughter’s graduation and other privileges. Can they do this?

Eric
05/15/2016 10:08 pm

You really need a lawyer or learn how to advocate for your child.. On your question, yes I believe they can, but at this point you need to be more concerned about protecting your daughter and suing the Bd of Ed.

Sunshine
02/18/2016 8:40 pm

My son has adhd ptsd and has been bullied since kindergarten. I had to take him to hospital for stitches when his head was shoved into the window on the bus. Now in 3rd grade he finally got tired of it and today punched one of the kids in his face. Now the child that was bullying is “the victim” and nothing was done to the other 5 boys. I do not know what is going to happen, if the parent will try and press charges or not. My son is being disciplined at-home and school. He finally fought back and is being punished. I can’t help but feel this other child is not the victim. I’m hurt to know my child is going through this, the school and staff seem to not care and just “talk” to the other kids. Talking is not working. The kids were trying to scare my son, he finally got tired of being bullied and did something about it. I just don’t want things to escalate. Don’t know how to discipline him for it.

makayla
02/02/2016 12:03 pm

why do people bully?

Orelia
01/25/2016 11:45 pm

Hello my 9 year old daughter was being bullied for almost a month in school. I contacted the principal, the assistant principal, the guidance counselor, the resource officer, her teacher, bus driver and the school board. there seems like nothing was really done. my 9 year old went to the doctor for excited because she didn’t want to go to school because she was afraid. she had suicidal thoughts about wanting to kill herself. she was going to start cutting herself. from her doctor’s appointment, they sent her straight to the psychiatric ward for kids. my daughter got punched in her face on the bus. the individual who punched her only got in school suspension not kicked off the bus. I was notified by the principal that she was going to look at the video tapes and call me back. never did. she was also going to send out bullying letters to the parents and never did. so now my child is on medication and is afraid to go to school.

doris
02/04/2016 11:44 am

my daughter is 7. she got pinched down below by a boy who harassed her last year. punched in the face and kicked at by two girls. principal is saying that she is making this up for attention from the.m
what to do? i threatened to sue them and need a lawyer.

Keleen
11/23/2015 10:16 am

Hello, I am reading up on bullying because on November 10, 2015 my daughter fought her Bully back after 2 years of walking away from comments being made directly & indirectly. Rumors & Lies spread on her & our family.. My Daughter was the only one punished from the fight. NOW, The bully’s Moma Is press’in Charges.. I need Advice & Help

Tomika
04/21/2016 1:15 pm

Did u ever get it resolved. I’m going through the same thing with my daughter now..any advice would be great, no one is helping us.

Aubrie
11/05/2015 1:28 pm

I have been bullied for the past month by one girl, i had notified every one of my teachers and not a thing was done about it. So 2 days ago i took it into my own hands as my father said i should and i punched her, so i could get my point across because obviously confronting her wasn’t working. I am suspended now and the principle says it was my fault. Now her mother is wanting to press charges against me. Is she able to press charges against me even though her daughter has been bullying me?

P Adam
11/05/2015 10:44 pm

If you can prove no teacher acted to protect you …. the date you reported the offense … document the date, witnesses . You have a right to attend school without fear

Fayth
11/05/2015 1:01 am

I am bullied at my place of work. I am a school aide. A parent is the bully. It started with a question I was suppose to answer. I would have answered but I was helping a 1st grader when she decided to interrupt because she was more important in her opinion. I took time answering the her. One thing led to another and she threatened me! She has since then made sure to be around me. I don’t know what to do. She is insane.

P Adam
11/05/2015 10:48 pm

Direct your parent to the teacher in charge. it’s not your job to answer any kind of question. Inform your teacher and principal. She has the degree and responsibility

Laura
11/04/2015 7:32 pm

BULLYING PROBLEMS, CHILD ARRESTED & HANDCUFFED

My 12 year old daughter has been bullied by on other student for about 2 years. I advice her to talk to her to let her know what’s the problem or what’s going on. The school called my daughter to the office to let her know she need to stay away from the girl that has been bulling her that they would talk to her later. After second period the girl continue to bully my daughter. My daughter had just had it and threw the first punch. Now the bully is the victim.

My daughter was charged with assault and battery. What can I do? Also the police department handcuff my daughter to take her to the police department with out reading her rights.

Aubrie
11/05/2015 1:30 pm

I am having the same issue. I am currently suspended because they say the bully was the victim. I had told all my teachers and still not a thing was done. My dad told me to punch her, so I did. Now her mom is trying to press charges against me.

lal
02/10/2016 9:49 pm

Tell the police social worker or whomever, that your father encouraged you to punch her. Parents should never encourage physical altercations. This isn’t the 60’s and 70’s sounds like your parents made a mistake and they should own up to this. If its a first offense you should get probation with dismissal of the case provided you cooperate. If its not your first charge will perhaps the problem is you.

Carolyn
06/20/2015 9:44 am

Marion County has a very long history for records violations they even gave a child ‘s records to an attorney without consent and for non educational purposes but for ligation against a parent. The child was not named as either the plaintiff or the defendant and the school district attorney detailed the child confidential school records in open court in front of TV stations. This is the violations that Marion County schools has been allowed to violate for years. The school district attorney even admitted under deposition that the use of a parent’s email to the school district were not for the educational benefits of the child but for litigation in a lawsuit for the benefit of the school district. This event occurred after the child was injured at school and the child’s MD reported county schools to the child protective agency for endangerment of the child. The parent had just gotten a state law judge order for the school district to abide by the child MD orders instead the school system attacked the parent when the child was harmed. This is invasion of privacy does anyone have an attorney willing to make a stand?

Anonymous
05/14/2015 12:04 am

My son has ADHD and has had an ongoing problem with 3 students at his school. This same thing has happend where I have asked what has been done and the school is telling me because of confidentiality they cannot tell me if the children have been suspended or what other actions have been taken. I have gone in to the school 3 times so far. AND it always seems like when an incident happens, just so happens the teacher “has her back turned” and doesn’t see what happened. Also, one of the children my son has had problems with told the teacher my son said a cuss word….teacher didn’t hear him (of course her back was turned) but my son still got suspended. Another indident that happened with this child was when he told another child to “smack the white” off of my child. If MY child had made a comment regarding the other child’s color, again he would have been suspended. I just don’t understand why these children are being protected. I am confused with this process. There is a lot more to this.

P Adam
11/05/2015 10:53 pm

Hold up, your kid got suspended on here say? Oh no. Teacher back turned more than once response? Maybe that teacher needs a job where she can keep her back turned

Alicia
03/26/2015 7:57 am

My son is handicapped and attends highschool. He was bullied for the past 6 months. The principal was made aware in December. The school said they would look into it. Wednesday my son was threatened, so he wrote a threat back to the boy on the wall. He’s suspended. The cop threatened my son with felony charges, juvy and other stuff. Is that legal? I have a meeting on Friday. The cop was intent on threatening my son but not the bully. What can I do?

P Adam
11/05/2015 10:56 pm

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Read your parents rights handbook. Your kid has rights. Bullying has a big $$ in court I hear

La Quitta
03/19/2015 9:26 pm

I am attempting to get my child’s disciplinary record from a previous school district. They failed to forward the records to the new school, but now they are telling me that they won’t give me the disciplinary records, can they do that? The current district didn’t have a problem giving them to us, and it’s extremely important because he is having a psychiatric evaluation and his history of discipline will help they psychiatrist in his evaluation. Again, can a school refuse to release our sons disciplinary records to us?

Lesley
03/02/2015 5:12 pm

My son is in a wheelchair. Went to the school, and told the school, but basically the principal is saying he doesn’t believe my son. He doesn’t think the other boy is doing anything. So what do I do?

Sand
03/01/2015 10:16 am

EVERYONE PLEASE! ! If your child has been threatened or harmed physically email or call the school district and tell them your complaint on the school and that your child doesn’t feel safe! PLEASE also call police and try to file charges. What is the worst thing they will tell you, no? Fight for your children fight! I waited and my child paid because of it. Its never too late but please stand up for your kids. If this was a workplace people wouldn’t have to put up with it. WHY SHOULD OUR CHILDREN have to? Bullies need to know that they can’t get away with this. PLEASE help your children.

shirley
09/25/2015 6:11 pm

I am sorry to say BUT this is going on in the work place and it probably the parent of the bullies I see it every day and how hard it is for parents to tell there child to stand up to that bully when they have to take it or lose there job A BULLY SHOULD HAVE NO RIGHT AT ANY AGE AND SCHOOL SHOULD BE HELD RESPONSIABLE once its been reported there should not be a second report and YES if my child was a bully I still think the same after 50 yrs I still feel the pain

Connie
02/24/2015 5:05 pm

My 8yr old daughter has been being bullied by her classmates they are all part of the special day class. Yesterday 3 of the boys held her down & started to choke her then when she called for help they covered her mouth. This all happen on the playground. I spoke with the principal & once again all she said is that they speak with the parents & try to keep them apart! Nobody called us either. I found about 3 hours later. What more has to happened to my daughter before anyone does something?? They’ve already punched her several times before now they’re holding her down, covering her mouth & choking her. I don’t know what to do anymore. She’s is afraid to go to school. Every time something happens between my daughter & them it seems to more & more aggressive. My husband & I are worry shell ended up in the hospital next time.

haya
10/03/2015 12:18 pm

In my opinion this situation is very dangerous . Please go to the police station and fill a report against these kids for bulling and threatening your daughter. Protect your daughter seeking legal action . School wont protect your daughter like them do trust me. . You posted this long time ago ,I hope you already reported them.

Orelia
01/25/2016 11:59 pm

That’s the same thing that’s happening to my 9 year old daughter. they punch her in the face for no apparent reason. the principal just telling me that she’s going to send notes with the students and try to keep them away from each other. but guess what my daughter end up in a psychiatric hospital for kids because she wanted to hurt herself and now she’s afraid to go to school. She is on medicine for anxiety so please get help.

lupe
02/18/2015 7:22 pm

My daughter is on special ed. she was being bullied at school. he reported several times, the school ignored. She was physically assaulted by other student. I was never notified, went to school to ask for video. They refuse to show it to me. Personal emails from the pshycology was exposed on from a whole class on a projector. How long legally do I have to file charges on that school?

Jackie
01/28/2015 7:33 pm

Do you deal with Special Ed. only? I hope this is not the case. This concerns a regular good kid and student almost in your backyard.

Sirmedra
01/28/2015 2:23 am

My 12 yr old son was attacked by a 18 yr 10 th grader. The school has since gave my son 45 days in the alternative to school. Policy states 5 days for a fight. They said that since my niece and nephew getting involved was a gang and my son should have not have defended himself.

Nancy
01/13/2015 10:40 am

Just wondering. My 2 sons are bullied on their bus ride home. The kid would tell my boys to say bad words, and or he would cough in their faces and such. I told my sons to ignore him and don’t say those bad words even if the kid is telling them to. So this past week they stood up by saying NO, but now the kid got physical and put his hands around my sons neck and was telling them, say it say it.. the bad word. Still my kids said no. So then he said he was going to kill them, bring a knife on the bus with him and such. I called the principal right away and was only told she would look into it and request the video from the bus. Do I have the right to watch it and see what happened? My kids wouldn’t lie. Can I request the kids name? And what they plan on doing? Can I request that he no longer rides this bus?

Nora
01/12/2015 12:46 pm

Why there are not more laws that can protect our kids from the teachers that are bullying our kids. My son was to a point of asking us for sleeping pills because his special education teacher was bullying and threatened him. The school and District didn’t do anything so we removed our son from the teacher. Why there is no punishment for those teachers?

kim
01/11/2015 12:58 am

My daughter was being bullied the 2nd day of school. A boy threatened to kill her and he sent a picture of himself to her without a shirt. After she contacted administration the boy accused her of bullying him. In front of the boy without my knowledge they made my daughter sign a contract that said she would behave better in the future. The principal told my daughter that the paper she signed would protect her. The bullying did not stop. then his friends that are girls are harassing my daughter, spreading rumors that my daughter cuts herself. The principal came to my house uninvited-I was not home. They believe the bullies again. My daughter is now having anxiety attacks and sees a therapist. The police were involved and they told me I should be a better parent. I was told by the school…I have no parent rights once I leave my child at school.

Tammy
12/30/2014 10:53 pm

I have a 13 year old grandson that was punched in the face at school. we have just found out that both sides of his jaw is broken and they are going to have to wire it shut. this is not the first time for this kid that did this. what and who can I get to help us in this case?

Jackie
12/23/2014 2:10 am

12Christy I did something similar to what you did. I was very quiet and knew the layout of the school well, so I acted like a spy escaping the teachers who were upset with me for no good reason.

I’ve learned schools now call bullies emotionally disturbed and claim they are disabled. Every child has the right to an education, even sociopaths who will do nothing with it. Students should be able to get cops involved if the school does nothing. It took me 20 years to stop blaming myself as my school victim blamed me saying I made myself a target. A student should be able to say no and have it respected an heard. No student should be threatened with punishment or blamed by teachers for being a victim. Our schools are not safe as long as being a bully is considered a disability.

Rogers
10/08/2014 4:38 pm

We live outside of Houston, TX. My son was stabbed in the back by a student with scissors. The school nurse contacted me of the incident. The boy has been attacking my son all year. We requested for the attacker to be removed from the classroom but they want my son to be removed. In this same school district our older son was choked by a teacher. We called the Police and their investigation was she had no prior incidences. We also called ISD police, arrived today and made a report but I feel that this school district has a racism for black children. We need your help and fast.

RLC
09/23/2014 6:14 pm

My ADHD son was assaulted by a special education teacher on May 2,2014. He had multiple fingerprint bruises on his back and sides. I was never called and it was not reported to police or CPS by the school. I did both immediately! The teacher resigned in July. Unfortunately, charges against him were “no billed” by the Grand Jury, even though he opening admitted to causing the bruises on my child. So, this teacher gets away with seriously harming my child? This can’t be seriously happening!!!

caroline
07/05/2014 9:17 pm

I think that when a crime is committed the criminal, regardless of age and location forfeits confidentiality. With maybe exemption or rather consideration of the circumstances, ex. Kids has had been bullied by the “victim” and possibly “snapped”. By the way regardless of confidentiality policy when a crime is committed that goes out the window, even quicker when the child has to go to the hospital to be treated. I’m not talking about a bruise or scratch , however if those are or become chronic should also be considered a hard crime and just as bad. My son has adhd and he has been bullied and has also bully other kids out of frustration and as a consequence of his adhd. So I do understand both sides. I’ve been in school to be told what my son had done and to see his legs full of bruises. Stop protecting criminals, it stops NOW!

rainieb
06/13/2014 7:40 pm

my daughter currently has a 504 plan for an anxiety disorder. In March she told us that she was bullied by verbal abuse. This included name calling and harassment in the hallways. When she would go to math class (intro to algebra) she had elevated levels of anxiety, along with recurring thoughts about the insults. After almost a whole year of school, she lost vital classroom instruction, and was blamed for failing and not going in for extra help. We told the school about the bullying and even told them she failed in spite of the tutors. They did not care of the circumstances and could not do anything about the bullying because my daughter is refusing to give names, she only gave lunch tables. I have been asking the school for two years for an IEP, but they refused. now everyone is celebrating and my daughter has to go to summer school.

Nicole
04/24/2014 12:10 pm

My 9 year old daughter was attacked on the school bus yesterday. Apparently, I am not allowed to know WHO they are, or HOW they will be disciplined. This privacy law needs to change. I can partially understand withholding names…but why on earth am I NOT allowed to know how these kids were disciplined?

Pammc
12/07/2015 12:05 pm

I’ve had the same problem,but in lunchroom,the school said I couldn’t view the footage of the incident because other kids being in the footage! I know most of the kids not interested in them just what took place with my child! What rights do I have to see video? Please help!

linda
04/07/2014 6:52 am

My child talked in class & yelled at by the teacher in the class, hallway & not taken to the office as students in general education, but is taken outside the Special Ed. office. Teacher pulls case manager out & complains about student & calls her a jerk. Student has never been in trouble in the class. I am told she is treated differently because she is in S.E., but has no behavioral issues per teachers or indicated in her IEP. She is treated differently because of both disability & race? What laws pertain to this? A routine parent teacher/adm. meeting was set up. Teacher brought Union Rep.(atypical) & without parent consent & has no relevance to my child & is not known to parent & refuses to leave or state y he is there. Is this a violation of privacy confidentiality &harassment? She was bullied & staff told her of the meeting. Help!

Kay
03/13/2014 11:36 am

MY SON IS BULLIED AND ATTACKED

My son is 15 and he was attending a drivers education class at the local High school. He does not attend this school, that is where the classes were being held. While waiting for the instructor to come int ot he class he was attacked by another student who was a student at that particular school. He has been bullied in the public school system since elementary and he is very quiet as not to draw attention to himself now. The other student attacked him and he defended himself. No one was seriously injured but now the school that he went to for the drivers education has kicked him out of the class and the deputy that was at the school is filing a juvenile petition against my son. I feel helpless in this situation. I want to know how I can fight for my son who has been a victim of bullies for years.

Schennia
11/26/2013 2:44 pm

my son was recently injured at school. No one knew anything and we weren’t called. I addressed my concerns through e-mail and a followup IEP meeting. During the meeting I was told that my son had bitten 2 or 3 adults prior to. Supposedly, he bit one person so bad their skin broke and they had to go to the doctor for a tetanus shot! Yet, I was never told! When I asked for the specifics (names and what happened) I was told I could not have the information due to HIPPA laws. But I was given the dates these incidents occurred. However, I keep just about all of my sons daily reports. On two of the days in question, my son had “great” and “very good” days. Notes were written at the bottom of each report but did not suggest that any biting occurred. So my question is, can the school deny me this information? And is there such a HIPPA law?

Rachel
05/09/2013 4:41 pm

What about when I asked to view the video that the principal said they have of my son but won’t show me and my son said its because they deleted it and my son was expelled 9 days, long-term/expulsion has been put on hold due to my withdrawing my son. Is this allowed?

Pammc
12/07/2015 12:09 pm

So sorry our schools don’t do better by our kids! I would please like to know how I can go about seeing a video of my son being bullied? Someone please help us?

Joanie
04/21/2013 9:35 pm

My son has had problems at his school. Last year he was beat in the face while others were watching! After that there were threats on facebook from others we took it all to School the Assistant principle said he didn’t think it was serious we came home and saw more stuff and this time went to the Principle and he put a stop to it!! This year he has had a boy threating him and he goes to the office and tells them they do nothing ! Well last Friday he and his girlfriend were sitting in the Library at School and the one that beat him up last year and the one that’s messing with him this year the one came by him and handed him something and said hold this don’t tell anyone when he looked down and saw it he turned to hand it back to him and he was gone the other boy went out and right after that the principle came in it had Marijuna in it! They did nothing to the other boys they said they couldn’t prove anything but now my son and his girlfriend are at an Alternative School!! If they are in special ed do they have any options on what Schools they want to go to. I had gotten a letter one time that said they could go to a different one because the special Ed. at this one wasn’t up to par or something!

Latrisha
12/08/2012 11:35 am

Hello yesturday I got a call from our school stating the my 7 year old son was attacked by another fellow student. He was punched in the face and knocked to the ground and kicked in the face/repeatedly kicked in the back. The school has it on security video. The School Recsourse officer was involved as well. I was told that they could not tell me anything other than what the child did to mine and that this will never happen again. I am at a loss of what to do. What are my sons rights? What are my rights as a parent? Please help.

Christy
11/15/2012 1:55 am

I have Asperger’s Syndrome and I am bipolar. I was harassed by not only the kids at school, but by the teachers as well. I remember one day I got put into ISS (In School Suspension) and I didn’t want to be there so I hid in the girls bathroom, but I left my bag on accident in the classroom and the teachers told me that they will take my bag if I don’t come out of the bathroom, knowing that i would try and get my bag from them. Plus, one of the counselors decided to take my head phones from me and break them then tell my parents that he didn’t and that they are in his office, because I wasn’t allowed to have my IPOD out during school hours even though music was the only thing that calmed me. Do I need to say any more?

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