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Help! I Need Some Support at the IEP Meeting

by Wrightslaw

Are you anxious about attending your IEP meeting? Would you like someone to attend with you who can help you get quality services for your child. Don’t know where to start?

In the beginning, this process seems overwhelming to most parents, so you are not alone. Ultimately, you will need to learn how to be an advocate for your child. Parents are responsible for looking out for their children’s interests.

Information and resources are available.

Wrightslaw Yellow Pages for Kids with DisabilitiesGo to the Yellow Pages for Kids web site page for your state and look through the listings. Advocates are listed.

Also contact the Parent Information Training Center for your state. They have training programs and may have staff who attend IEP meetings with parents.

See what training your state Parent Information Center offers.

If we are in your area, try to attend one of our Wrightslaw Special Education Law and Advocacy programs.

If you cannot travel to training, you can train at home at your convenience with Wrightslaw Training on CD-ROM.

You can learn a great deal by reading articles on the Wrightslaw web site.

Read these articles:

Advocating for Your Child – Getting Started. Good special education services are intensive and expensive. Resources are limited. If you have a child with special needs, you may wind up battling the school district for the services your child needs. To prevail, you need information, skills, and tools. (

Game Plan for New Parents. Introductory article; focuses on importance of planning and preparation. (

Help! How to Find an Educational Consultant, Advocate, Attorney. Strategies to find an educational consultant, advocate or attorney who represents children with disabilities. (

Parent Advocacy: What You Should Do – and Not Do. Good advice from attorney Leslie Margolis about steps parents can take to get quality educational services for their children with disabilities. (

Here is a link to “Summer School for Parents.” If you take this 6 part course, you will learn many of the skills you need to be your child’s advocate. (

Learn from Others – Join a Parent Group. Advice about finding and joining a parent study or support group. (

Good luck!

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21 Comments on "Help! I Need Some Support at the IEP Meeting"


The school has been payiing for a unique placement for my son for the last four years WHTOUT an IEP (I filed a 10 day letter of intent to place him in a private school at public expense and then we mediated). The term of that agreement is up. Now they want to have an IEP and state they aren’t sure why there wasn’t one for the last four years. My son has made TREMENDOUS progress. I’ve instituted stayput but now they want to also change the agreement which would also change my son’s graduation requirements …to include additional courses and tests he should have taken several years ago…that he wouldn’t pass now due to being finished with the content area (ie math) How do I even begin to approach this?


Understanding the closing the gap thing.. My son has made progress but the gap continues to widen, The District knows it continues to widen, but claims because he’s maintaining that everythings ok. The word maintaining is the issue.. what are my options in respect to him maintaining and the gap not closing. What do I need to do, they have the comparisons where some 10 to 20 point drops are seen. They have the recent report where it states the gap is not closing. Some of the CELF scores from 2009 to 2013 have decreased. Shows where some subtests have stayed the same. He enters 8th grade and time is running out. (State NY)


Is it legal to take a child with an IEP in OK state, out of his regular daily science class everyday for 3-4 weeks, in order to prepare for the state test? He is good at math, always As, yet he is preparing for state test. His math grade will be accounted for a science grad in which he has a D. He never does homework & plays around in class, but never gets consequences for this. No one communicates with me! They told him to tell me, but he couldn’t explain. He’s 12 with autism, ODD, ADHD. Who decides this? How can a parent not be involved in this? So in a month, he goes back to science. How can he catch up to know what is going on in science class? Won’t this put him further behind in science?

Sharon L.

Monica, The first thing I would do is schedule an IEP meeting to go over the progress of your son. Explain to the person setting up the meeting that you intent is to go over the reading program that they are supposed to be doing. If they come to the meeting without any results you need to discuss this and get a commitment as to what they are doing. They must follow the IEP. It is the law. If not they must provide you with an explanation of what is going on. My son had to take the reading test without someone reading to him because it was against the state rules and of course he did not pass the test. We were able to exempt him from the consequences of the state testing. He had to take the test but it did not count against him towards his graduation.


I need help, my son has reading problems and they say that the reading sol cannot be read to him. Is that true? And they told me and it was on his iep they were going to start a reading program. They never started the whole year. It was one excuse after another and he is sick to his stomach about the reading english sol. He is in the 6 th grade.