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Advocacy: What You Should Do . . . and Not Do
Parents Should Do
You should treat the IEP meeting as if it is the first step towards a due process hearing by preparing for the meeting and building a record.
If you do this, you make it less likely that you will end up at a due process hearing. If you do end up at a hearing, you will be in a stronger position.
2. Prioritize Your Child's Needs
Everything you want for your child is not equally important. Make a list of what your child really needs, what you want for your child (but may be willing to compromise on), and what would be nice to have but that you would definitely be willing to give up.
Think about the evidence you have to support each requested item (i.e., reports, assessments, experts, other documents). If you prioritize your issues and have facts and evidence that support what you want, it is more likely that you will be taken seriously.
3. Build Good Relationships
Develop positive relationships with school personnel, to the greatest extent possible. Ask questions. Ask your child's team to explain things you do not understand.
Take the high road. As hard as this may be to do, being polite and courteous is always better than being rude and nasty. If a meeting is deteriorating with nasty comments or behavior from any team member, ask for a break or ask that the meeting be continued to a later date and time.
Good relationships with school personnel and central office staff to the extent possible, will generally ensure that issues you bring up will be taken seriously.
4. Document Issues & Concerns
Ask that items and issues you feel strongly about be documented in the meeting summary or notes. Review the summary before you leave the meeting. Know your rights about amending your childs records.
5. Use Advocacy Strategies
Use advocacy strategies. Meetings do not have to be drawn out to the point of battle. For example, if the team cannot reach an agreement about the type or amount of service, suggest that the issue be tabled in order to obtain additional information from consultation or conversation(s) between your childs private therapist (if there is one) and the school therapist.
Rather than immediately asking for an independent assessment, disputes can sometimes be resolved by asking that an assessment be conducted by a school district evaluator who does not know your child.
What Parents Should Not Do
1. Complain Loudly & Often
Parents should not complain about every issue that comes up over the course of their childs school life. This is the equivalent of crying wolf, and ensures that when a serious issue does arise, you will not be taken seriously. This is because you are expending the same amount of complaint energy on the serious issue as you expended on trivial issues.
2. Assume the Worst
Parents should not assume that the school district is out to get their child and deny services. While the reality is that the school district is a bureaucracy with its own interests to protect, most individuals in the district enter the field because they care about children.
While you need to enter the special education process with knowledge to protect your childs rights, you should treat the professionals with whom you deal as if those professionals have your childs best interests at heart.
3. Have a Closed Mind
You need to be have an open mind at at IEP meetings. If your child's team proposes a placement with which you disagree, do not dismiss it, or refuse to observe it, or refuse to consider it. This is especially true if you may challenge the appropriateness of the proposed placement.
Again, the IEP meeting is important for record-building purposes. If the case goes to a due process hearing, it is important that you present as a cooperative person who thoughtfully considered the teams program, personally observed the program, and can explain why you believe the program does not meet your childs needs.
4. Stint on Experts
Do not try to save money by stinting on experts. You need to find experts who can provide sound professional opinions and evidence. Experts are critical to successful cases, especially if parents are unrepresented.
If you truly
cannot find experts, either through your childrens medical service
providers or otherwise, you need to think about how to use supportive
(or even hostile) school personnel to your advantage.