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Missy:  My daughter was traumatized by another student that took her clothes off and made suggestive dance moves. This is recorded on the bus recorder. The bus driver never saw what was happening. My daughter never should have seen what she did. NOW I find they put this incident in my daughter’s IEP! It’s disgusting to begin with and the PS finds it necessary to put into an IEP? We asked for it to be removed before we transferred her to another school. Promised they would. THEY LEFT IT IN suggesting my daughter was some how at fault. Do we have any recourse?

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08/11/2016 12:51 pm

I am so sorry your daughter had to experience this on the bus. If her IEP has nothing to do with this incident I would challenge them again about why such an incident was put in her IEP. If you did not approve this then insist again to have it out of her record.
I have not doubt you empathized with what your child went through and she needs to know you know this was difficult and confusing. I am so glad she shared with you. Keep advocating for her privacy.

08/12/2016 6:20 pm
Reply to  Megan

Thank you! The saddest part is that she has copied this disgusting behavior =( And it went on for a very long time w/out an assistant on the bus

08/11/2016 2:02 am

i AM SORRY, BUT where were the adult aides to supervise the children on the bus for for protection. These incidents get shoved under the rug and that will be the end of it. To me, this is an incident about protecting children. End of story. There is no shame or blame.
the only thing I did wrong when my daughter was the victim of assault and inappropriate touching at school was NOT TO PUT IN A POLICE REPORT TO THE Special Victims Unit immediately. I would have saved myself a lot of pain and grief letting the experts investigate a stage 2 sexual misdemeanor before my daughter got sick and dropped out at 17.

08/10/2016 3:21 pm

You don’t mention your daughter’s age or what she thinks and feels about the incident. Our children recover from incidents like this if we parents handle it calmly and rationally. You need to assure your daughter that the incident was not her fault. The child who took her clothes off has major problems, needs compassion, not criticism.

Then move on.

08/11/2016 1:09 am
Reply to  Wrightslaw

My daughter is 9 and has Down syndrome. What upsets me more now is that it was written into her IEP when we pulled her out of that school. We specifically asked it to be removed, as to not damage our daughters reputation. This was a recorded IEP and the said they would. There is more to the story that I cannot share on her. Bottom line. This incident should have never been added to an IEP and sent to my daughters new school. …in fact, the whole team. The details make my little girl sound terrible. Should I now explain to every teacher exactly what happened? We did move on to get away from all this retaliation. We just finished due process. Thank you