My daughter’s IEP states:
Mother’s lack of trust for school and staff continues to hinder her daughter’s ability to make progress socially and emotionally.
Can they write this about me in the IEP? How do I get it off?
This is a new one! The IEP is not supposed to be personal.
You certainly don’t have to sign the IEP (unless it is the initial consent for services).
But you may sign it, then make a statement that you do not agree with the statement in the IEP.
If the school allows personal statements, I bet you have a choice few that could be added. I wonder if the school would appreciate your comments?
That said, you do need to “pick your battles.” Do not allow your concern over these inappropriate comments to stop the IEP process or services. Focus your energy on getting a program that will meet your child’s needs.
- Is your daughter making progress socially and emotionally?
- Does she have social/emotional needs?
- Does the IEP address these needs?
- Are there appropriate social/emotional goals in her IEP?
- Is there data to indicate progress/no progress?
Your frustration about the school’s comment is understandable. Take a deep breath. Do a quick attitude check. If school personnel view you negatively, they are likely to believe that you are the source of most of your daughter’s problems … and they can’t help her. You need to change their perceptions.
Your ultimate goal is to help your child. To accomplish this goal, you need to protect the parent-school relationship.
Write on the IEP that you do not agree with this statement, and ask the team to remove it. Follow up with a police business-like letter to the team (no emotions, nothing about how you “feel”) to correct the record. Your letter should describe your concerns about your child’s education. Reiterate your request that the team remove the statement about from the IEP. Your letter will become part of your child’s educational record.