Can you tell me if I have any rights? Here is my issue: potty training.
My daughter is 8, non verbal and developmentally delayed. She wants to be potty trained. At home she signs when she needs to go. At school they ignore her signs and tell me they can’t possibly take her once an hour. There are four aides and one teacher for 9 children. I just don’t understand why someone can’t take her to the potty as needed.
Your issue is about potty training at school for your daughter – a legitimate concern. Parents of children with disabilities have hundreds of different issues. There are always disagreements with the school.
This is the REAL issue –
– resolving a problem while maintaining a healthy working relationship with school personnel.
Here are the first steps you should take to resolve a problem. These steps apply to the issue of potty training …and many other disagreements you may need to resolve with your child’s teacher or school staff.
1. Write a letter to your child’s IEP team.
2. Describe the problem.
3. Ask the team to develop AND implement a strategy to …. (potty train your daughter).
4. Explain the consequences to your child, the school staff, family and friends if your child…. (does not learn to use the potty now).
5. Include a little information about the background history of your concern. Describe how you deal with the issue at home.
6. Describe what you would like the school to do for your child and why. Provide information to back up your suggestions.
7. Request an IEP meeting to review your child’s goals and revise your child’s IEP to include a goal for …. (potty training).
8. Create a written record of your request and what each staff member is responsible for doing.
9. Use a parent attachment form during the IEP meeting. Here are several good forms – or develop a form of your own. https://www.wrightslaw.com/advoc/tips/bonnell.iep.attach.htm
10. After the meeting, write a short thank you note that summarizes what the team agreed to do. Be sure to offer to help.
Agreements always need to be in writing so a nice thank you note is a good way to create the initial record.