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Beng:  My daughter does not talk in school (since preschool). My daughter exited her IEP (Developmental Delay) as soon as she entered kindergarten. According to the team, she’s performing on grade level although she’s not talking or just whispers. Few months in kindergarten, I was referred by the guidance counselor to contact UNLV school re: selective mutism. To make the story short, she’s diagnosed with selective mutism and social phobia. She has presently has 504 plans with a “”FEW”” accommodations only and I am not sure if accommodations are being done as I am not in school all day (no way for me to know). I read a lot about IEP for children with selective mutism. I wonder if it’s a good idea to contact the school psychologist, speech pathologist again to re-evaluate her and give her IEP. The reason she EXITED according to them is she is perfoming on grade level but basically my daughter’s teacher cannot assess her (all her skills are DOES NOT MEET.). Question is, can they give my child IEP again? I am worried that they will retain my child since they cannot assess her.

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My son has Selective Mutism as well as many other diagnoses. (Other diagnoses came after 1st grade.) He was found to be no longer be eligible for special education during 1st grade so I know what you are going through. In my son’s case we had all sorts of issues since he was transferred to a mainstream class. At the time, he was talking in school but when put into a mainstream class the size of the class was overwhelming for him and he went mute in the school setting. He also began to refuse going to school. That was 6 years ago. I have since learned a lot about Selective Mutism and could give you some strategies to consider as you move forward.

Also an accommodation for you daughter on her 504 plan should be “alternative methods of assessment” allowing you to assess her at home. I would suggest that to your team. If you don’t feel like the school is following the 504 you have the right to call a meeting to discuss it. Work with the teachers and school to figure out a plan that serves your daughter. Not against them. I’ve had doctors pit the school against the parents because the doctor says the school is not doing enough. It’s willful misunderstanding to place such high expectations on public schools that are often strapped for resources and underfunded. A team approach is best, with an SM expert, and parent support. In my work that has been the most successful for the student.

As school psychologist whose worked with SM and found the work very rewarding would not recommend an IEP. A student with an IEP needs different instruction than what they would receive in the classroom. Most students with SM are bright and capable. They most likely will not qualify for an IEP because they will not show a need for one. They need accommodations around their disability (504 plan). A team approach between a SM expert, the school and parents is recommended. An IEP will not solve SM. Mental health services and working with the school will. That is why a team approach is best. Public schools are to provide a free and appropriate education (case law) not free and optimal. But, you can request an evaluation, that is your right. I also do not think retention is okay for SM.


My daughter is going to Kindergarten this September and she has select mutism. I would keep the IEP for her. My daughter does NOT even talk to my own father who she sees at least 2 times a week. NOT one word. Just make sure that your kid is not being tested with verbally. If they do have to have an oral test, maybe you can do it yourself on a camera phone and send it to the teacher electronically. I just thought about that the other day.

I am a teacher and have seen this in the past. Don’t force your daughter to talk. This only makes it worse. Best of luck!

Beng –

You CAN ask that your daughter be reevaluated for special education eligibility. Unfortunately, it sounds like the school doesn’t really know how to meet your child’s needs.

Your best bet may be to have your child independently evaluated by someone who is familiar with her condition and how to service kids like her in a school environment, and then providing those results to the school. I suggest that you network with selective mutism organizations in your area to find such an evaluator.

If you cannot arrange for such an evaluation (it may be costly), you may have a right to an independent evaluation at public expense.

Here are some organizations that I suggest you connect with:

#1 your local parent center (http://www.parentcenterhub.org/find-your-center/) for help understanding your special education rights, including independent evaluations

#2 your local parent to parent program (http://www.p2pusa.org/p2pusa/SitePages/p2p-support.aspx) for help finding selective mutism support

#3 your local P2P health info center (http://www.fv-ncfpp.org/f) for help understanding how to access medical and therapeutic options for your daughter

It appears you are in Las Vegas. I suggest you contact the Legal Aid Center of Southern Nevada. The number is 702~386~1070. They are located on E. Charleston.