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The Stress of Due Process

by Debbie Larson

Even with great preparation and the advice of an attorney, due process hearings are very time consuming and stressful.  This is especially true for parents.

Before proceeding to due process, try to turn the situation around first.

Here are some tips about what you can do.

  • Do your homework.
  • Read all the articles suggested on Wrightslaw.
  • Keep your emotions in check.
  • Get independent evaluations. Learn how to understand what they mean.
  • Document conversations and meetings. Tape record meetings if you can.
  • Ask clarifying questions and document the answers.
  • Be sure you can clearly define the school’s position and reasoning.
  • Be sure you can clearly articulate both your concerns and your child’s needs.
  • Learn some of the terms the school staff is accustomed to using.
  • Develop an ally from within the school members of the team if possible. This will help you  state your position and look to another person at the table for confirmation.

Read the success stories about what others have done. Win-win is possible.

Sometimes You Have No Option

Sometimes there is no option but to go to a due process hearing.  Sad, but true. It should always be a last resort.  The law contains this procedural safeguard for a reason. It gives parents an option.

The important point is to methodically work your way through the process before you go to hearing.  It takes time, patience, self-control and work to do this.  Most of the time you will be successful at some point before hearing.  If not, you know you have done all the right things to get to a collaborative point with the district.

You will never regret taking the high road in working with the school.  Allow the district to save face, never rubbing it in if they capitulate.  This is part of the collaborative process.  Always be gracious in victory.

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06/16/2015 10:25 pm

Can Public School Districts getaway for not providing services with Learning disabilities, ADHD or any other disability to kids, when parent have all the proof from specialist doctors and psychologists?

06/12/2012 10:56 am

I have a strange case-
District never considered qualification under option C for SLD. They say the student did not have a processing deficit But examination of the processing assessments conducted show that these tests were only partially done and modified. AFter being denied services student was simply put back in Gen ed for 1st and 2nd grade, not even a 504. Not surprisingly student is reading at a K level as he prepares to enter 3rd grade. School has never been willing to listen to parent concerns about faulty initial assessment to reconsider qualification. Basically,… Read more »

Sharon L.
02/06/2011 12:58 am

Stress of Due Process Hearing Lori Yes the school attorney can do this however the school attorney cannot be the “hearing officer” that makes the final decision. The parent should also have an attorney present as well.

02/01/2011 8:17 am

Question. The school filed for Due Process, an IEP meeting was scheduled, the school district attorney whom is handling the due process was in charge at the IEP meeting, he asked all the questions etc. etc. Can he both attend and or “run” the IEP meeting and at the same time be the attorney for the due process hearings? Appreciate any guidance on this subject.

Sharon L.
01/09/2011 4:27 pm

SMM – Yes I agree. The school looks out for their best interests and try to spend as little money as possible. Sad.

01/03/2011 7:39 pm

Beth-Have you been documenting the bullying IN WRITING to the school? If not, it is like it never happened. Have you requested, in wiritng, the policy for bullying for your district? We have a bullying law in our state. Research to see if your state has one. MEMORIZE it and then hold them to it! Bullying of a child with a disability, can result in the denial of FAPE, this being true, might make it an concern to bring up with the IEP team. The building administrator has a responsibility to… Read more »

01/03/2011 4:50 pm

I have been gracious at every turn. I have been nice, respectful, and complimentary. It doesn’t matter. With my district, it is all how to prove that they are the best district. Sad, but true.

12/28/2010 3:15 pm

Bullying is aganist the law now in many states as far as I know. Check out this website: Also, go to your state department of education for more info on it. Bullying she never be tolerated and children’s concerns on it should be taken seriously; not dismissed. If your child is being bullied and the school refuses to intervene, you can file a complaint at the state level.

12/26/2010 3:56 pm

my daughter is in regular ed, but she is being bullied. all i asked the school to do was change her class. the principal refuses and is basically trying to sweep this under the rug. the principal basically accused my daughter of lying and stated that she was to blame as well. She even told my daughter that some of what she has experienced is not bullying and made my daughter look her in the eye and promise to stay away from the kids who are bullying her. Shouldn’t the school be keeping them away from her? In this… Read more »

Susan 2
12/22/2010 8:29 pm

I think the thing to remember about any “process” is that the intent is to enable the parties to find common ground. You may not get everything you want, but to have the opportunity to advocate for you child and to do whatever is in your power for the benefit of the one you love is absolutely priceless. We have been in the private school environment, without a voice. I don’t always enjoy the conversation or the results…..but I am always grateful for the opportunity… ..For example, our daughter comes from Eastern Europe, where she had no… Read more »

12/22/2010 4:39 pm

I appreciate the responses. I’ve presented Prior Written Notice to my district. As someone else wrote elsewhere, it means very little to the dsitrict. The district has all the time in the world while our kids time is ticking away. And, the districts know this all to well. I always advocate for my son in the most professional and politie manner. The attorney let me down in the most unprofessional manner. This person is paid by the state. It is a public agency; not private. She allowed me to believe she… Read more »

12/22/2010 1:46 pm


A politely written letter requesting Prior Written Notice for the classification change is a fair request in this sort of situation.

When we thought like victims of a failed system, we experienced results of a victim. Once we read From Emotions to Advocacy and began to apply the strategies to our advocacy, we began to experience the results that we ultimately wanted.

I know what it is to think, “you don’t know my situation and that our district is more difficult to deal with than most”. While they are difficult to deal with, most are the same.

Attorneys who represent students… Read more »

12/22/2010 9:24 am

Corruption appears to run rampant in Special Education. The laws on the books is an absolute joke! What is the point of having laws if they can’t be upheld? The public attorney I sought out gave every indication of being a champion for student rights. In fact, she has a grandchild with Autism! At the very least, there should be some professional decency for her to contact me with any lame excuse for dropping off the radar completely. She had me and my husband jump through hoops and we did so dutifully. Bascially,… Read more »

12/21/2010 2:29 pm

We were able to negotiate educational services or our child without going due process.

As parents, we assumed that the negotiation for services would be played on a level playing field. While the negotiation process is not a cake walk, a positive outcome can be reached without due process.

Our experience was that documentation and recorded IEP meetings meant very little. The SPED Director requested on tape and in front of our attorney., that we withdraw my child and denied making the request weeks later.

If this is done in my face, imagine what documentation would be falsified in preparation for due process..

School… Read more »

12/21/2010 1:02 am

Make copies of everything, backup drives and check the background of your lawyer. Always seek to settle if possible because you never know what the judge or jury will find.

12/20/2010 3:41 pm

I have a dilemma. I sought the advice and assistance from an attorney through the state funded legal services agency in my county. The attorney gave every indication she was taking my case and preparing for due processing. I sent everything to her including 3 audio recorded IEP meetings and provided a great deal of compelling evidence. In the interim, the school district unilaterally dropped the PDD-NOS under special alerts after I requested the IEP classification change from OHI to Autism. The district refuses to comply. My problem is after giving all the documentation… Read more »