You say parents have rights but I don’t think they do. I think parents are powerless. The only parents who have rights are financially able to afford the implementation of the IEP. Schools call those who cannot a “constant complainer.”
You sound a lot like I did about 6 years ago. Three of my four children have IEPs.
When I began advocating for my kids, the principal of my kid’s school told other parents that I was mentally ill and…… she said my kids could not read because I was a bad parent. Was I mad!
The hardest thing I ever had to do was to leave those emotions out of the parent/school equation. When I learned to do that, it gave me the credibility, not the principal.
I built my credibility when I left my emotions in the parking lot. The principal called in the school district. The district saw that I was not the “crazy” the principal made me out to be. The district eventually sided with me.
The Over Emotional Parent
We are a working family who could not afford lawyers to advocate for our children. I felt powerless to do anything.
I knew one thing. I had to find a way to get my kids what they needed.
A lady named Pam told me to stop playing the overly emotional parent and do what was necessary to advocate for my kids. This was hard.
[Read Susan's story: From Victim to a Mighty Force, the Numbers Do Not Lie ]
My struggle has paid off. I am NOT powerless. I am a parent advocate.
My kids now have good strong IEPs. The school follows the IEPS. You CAN do this. The change we seek will come from parents advocating for their own kids!
[ Wrightslaw Note: Susan Bruce is now an education coordinator and parent trainer for South Carolina's Parent Training and Information Center, PRO*Parents of South Carolina and graduate of ISEA 2012. ]
Susan has trained thousands of parents and professionals on the IDEA and effective advocacy skills, empowering them to effectively advocate for appropriate services for students with disabilities.