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WOW! Never Thought my Letter Would Show up in the Special Ed Advocate

by Wrightslaw

I just reviewed your Summer School for Parents: Lesson #4. I am the mom who wrote about the need for a particular type of placement for my son with autism. Never thought that my letter about How I Got the School to Change My Son’s Program & Placement would show up there!

Here’s the further result.

My son is now 17. He is in all regular ed classes. He gets LOTS of supports and takes the same final tests all the other students do. He is on the honor roll. He intends to write books and movies in his future, and I believe he will! He also knows that he wants to have a job to support himself while he writes those books and movies, so he is taking courses in his area of interest.

I can hear some folks thinking – Yeah, but his disability must be pretty mild.

In fact, his level on an autism scale would fall in the moderately affected range. He did not read fluently or from “chapter” books until he was 13. He still requires assistance when writing more than a couple of words. He still needs visual icons connected to content material for storage and retrieval. And thanks to following the FETA (From Emotions to Advocacy) process consistently over the years, he gets all those supports.

This is not a fluke. This is the result of many hours of meetings, evaluations, discussions, notes, and work. It is the result of food brought to meetings, thank you notes written, emotions kept out of letters, assertiveness rather than aggressiveness. It is the result of alliances deliberately developed. Do not think this is a do it once and that’s it process. It will require your direct and very personal involvement from today forward. But it does work!

Take one step. Read one chapter. Document one particular meeting or conversation. It is a one step at a time process, done consistently. Hang in there and do not give up. Things can be changed to become more positive, more responsive, and more appropriate for your child.

I cannot thank Pete and Pam enough. I have followed the web site, newsletter, and now the blog for over 10 years. Their knowledge is invaluable. So keep reading and learning and applying what you have learned. It will help you get where you want to be.

-Debbie from New York

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I’ve known for some time now that my son, 9, needed additional support in and out of school, but when I went to a meeting and the school handed me an IEP that said ED, I was somewhat in shocked. I Had my son tested, and all results came back ADHD, but now I’m told to get the classification to MD- I’m so confused!!!!!! Can you help, please?


My daughter is an academically gifted, highly intelligent high school student who has recently suffered a traumatic event which has exacerbated underlying depression. She was recently hospitalized and now I am seeking placement in an alternative school. The school will most likely classify her as emotionally disturbed if I want the placement. I am worried about sending her to a school for emotionally disturbed kids when her academic abilities are so high. Will this do irreversible damage to her college admissions process?


I have a son that has also been diagnosed with Autism on the moderate side. However, we live in a very small, uneducated community. The school he attends has him in the Multiple handicap unit over 70% of his day stating it is due to his behavior. However, his behavior is never dealt with only by not letting him participate in the regular classroom because he is disturbing the others. He was to be put in the regular science class this year. I then find out he is only attending that class 1-2 times a week because he is disruptive. No plan of action is made by the school to rectify his behavior at school. This battle seems never ending. He is a very bright child with a wonderful personality and the kids in his class just love him and are very over proctective. I feel he will never be in a regular classroom on a regular basis.