Question: Help! School is starting. I want to make sure I have done my homework so this year is better than last year.
Answer: You need to view your role as your child’s “case manager.” (Learn more about "The Parent as Project Manager" in Chapter 3 of Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy).
You need to be watchful, even when things appear to be going well.
Here are ten tips to help you get off to a good start at the beginning of the new school year.
1. Help Your Child Deal with Transitions.
Is your child making the transition from preschool to kindergarten, from elementary to middle school, or from middle school to high school? Plan to take your child to visit the new school or classroom before the first day of school.
2. Reread your child’s IEP.
Do you understand what the school agreed to provide? Do your child's teachers understand what they are to provide?
Is your child's IEP SMART? (specific, measurable, action words, realistic, and time-specific)? (Review Chapter 12 about SMART IEPs from Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy).
3. Meet with your child’s teacher(s) to discuss your child’s special needs.
Take a picture of your child to the meeting. Teachers are more likely to take a personal interest in your child and remember your child’s special needs if s/he has seen a picture of your child.
4. Take extra copies of your child’s IEP to the meeting with the teacher(s).
Never assume that teachers have had time to read your child’s IEP before school begins. Teachers have many things to do as they prepare for the first day of school. The teacher may not understand how important the IEP is to your child’s success. Leave a copy of your child's IEP with each teacher.
5. Make a List of Important Things About Your Child .
Make a list of the five most important things that the teacher(s) need to know about your child. Explain why these things are vital to your child’s success. Leave a copy of the list with each teacher.
6. Prepare to Deal with Potential Problems Early.
If your child is in general education classes, prepare for the teacher(s) who wants to see how your child “gets along” before making any changes in the way they run their classrooms.
Teachers often take this position because they want to give their students a fresh start. You may need to explain why your child may fail unless the teacher understands his/her unique needs and provides the necessary services, accommodations and supports.
7. Resolve Old Concerns and Issues.
If you have concerns or issues that were not resolved during the last IEP meeting, request another IEP meeting immediately. Try to resolve these issues and concerns before your child begins to have problems this year.
8. Get a New Assessment. Consider getting your child's skills tested very early in the school year. Where are your child's skills on standardized educational achievement tests? Use these scores as baseline data. You can compare these scores with scores obtained at the end of the year to measure your child’s progress. (See Chapter 8, Your Child's Evaluations, in Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy).
9. Go to your school’s Open House. In addition to giving you another chance to meet with your child's teachers (and make a good impression), teachers often explain their classroom rules during Open House. When you attend, you have a chance to see if your child may have trouble understanding the teachers' rules. You will also be in a better position to explain these rules to your child.
10. Get a bound notebook. Use the notebook as a “contact log” to send messages to the teachers. Write a sentence of two to the teacher(s) every day. Do not make your child the bearer of messages about problems at school. Make an extra copy of your log often in case the notebook is lost.
Have a great school year!
More Tips for Parents
10 Tips for Good Advocates
10 Tips for a Successful School Year
10 Tips for Ending the School Year
10 Tips for Parents: How to Listen to Your Inner Voice
10 Tips: How to Use IDEA 2004 to Improve Your Child's Special Education
14 Tips for Reviewing Your Child's Educational Record
18 Tips on Filing Complaints
IEP Tips: Taping Meetings
IEP Tips: What to Do at an IEP Meeting
More Resources for Parents
Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy has a companion website at Fetaweb.com.
Part 1 of the book is Getting Started. Go to Getting Started for articles about the basic skills of parent advocacy.
Advocating for Your Child - Getting Started. Good special education services are intensive and expensive. Resources are limited. If you have a child with special needs, you may wind up battling the school district for the services your child needs. To prevail, you need information, skills, and tools.
Assertiveness and Effective Parent Advocacy. Short article by parent and advocate Marie Sherrett describes joys and challenges of parent advocacy.
Planning and Preparation: Keys to Successful Advocacy. Learn why planning and preparation are important; learn about the parent's role as special education project manager.
The second section of Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy is Advocacy 101.
In Advocacy 101, you learn about gatekeepers, special education teams, and one-size-fits-all (OSFA) programs. When you learn the rules of the game, you will be a more effective advocate and negotiator for your child. (Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy, page 21). Here are a few articles from Advocacy 101:
Learning the Rules of the Game - Learn why parents and schools have different perspectives, what to do when disagreements turn into power struggles, how to use your power wisely, the dangers of making threats, how to deal with IEP meeting frustrations, and more.
From Emotions to Advocacy: The Parent's Journey. Classic article about dealing with your child's disability and how to manage your emotions.
Special Education Advocacy
You will find dozens of useful articles about special education advocacy on the Wrightslaw site - click here.
9 Ways to Boost Your Child's Attitude Before the Bus Arrives - What can you do before your children leave for school to help them feel that they can conquer anything? These no-nonsense pointers from Jackie Igafo-Te'o will help you eliminate a large portion of last-minute stress that comes with every weekday morning.
Parent Advocacy: What You Should Do - and Not Do. Good advice from attorney Leslie Margolis about steps parents can take to get quality educational services for their children with disabilities.
When Parents & Schools Disagree. Educational consultant Ruth Heitin describes common disagreements between parents and schools and offers suggestions about how to handle these disagreements.
Howey is an advocate who has helped parents obtain special education services
and resolve special education disputes.
a member of the Wrightslaw Speakers Bureau, Pat provides training for parents,
educators, and others who want to ensure that children receive quality special
Read more of Pat's answers to questions submitted by people just like
you in Wrightslaw's Ask
the Advocate section.
Special Education Consulting
West Point, Indiana 47992-0117