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Is My Attorney on My Side?
by Pat Howey
, Advocate

How can I be sure my attorney is on my side?

He jokes with the school’s attorneys during meeting breaks.

They seem to be very chummy.

Is this just another “good ole boys’ club”?

Friend or Foe?

This question comes up all the time, not just in special education cases. People question this throughout the entire legal system.

I have heard countless folks say that the legal system is not a fair one. They think this because they watch legal counsel battle it out in the courtroom, then walk outside and make plans to play golf the next day.

People assume that it is a “good old boys” club, and that it is impossible to obtain a fair hearing.

They believe there is a conspiracy between all of the attorneys – they are all friends.

One of my wise and deep attorney friends explained this phenomenon.

He said, "Attorneys cannot allow what goes on inside the courtroom to make them hate their opponents".

Sooner or later in their careers, they will face many, if not all, of the attorneys in their area. If they begin to hate the opponents they face, it will not be long until they have to hate ALL of the attorneys because at some time or another, they will face them in court.

Ethical Obligation

Attorneys have an ethical obligation to vigorously defend their clients. The legal system is adversarial, by design. That does not mean that all adversaries are enemies.

I also believe that many attorneys are frustrated actors/actresses. That is part of what makes them good at what they do.

Think about it.

To be a good advocate, your attorney must maintain his emotions. If he loses control, the school’s attorney takes control. Yet, he must be indignant and outraged at the way the school is treating you and your child. This takes a special skill and calling.

Do not assume that because those in the legal profession are civil – or even friendly – to each other that there is a conspiracy.

Your attorney is on your side, or he would not have taken your case.


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About Pat Howey

Pat HoweyPat Howey is an advocate who has helped parents obtain special education services and resolve special education disputes. Read more of Pat's answers to questions submitted by people just like you in Ask the Advocate.

As a member of the Wrightslaw Speakers Bureau, Pat provides training for parents, educators, and others who want to ensure that children receive quality special education services.

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Contact Information
Pat Howey
Special Education Consulting
POB 117
West Point, Indiana 47992-0117
Website: patriciahowey.com
Email: specialedconsulting@gmail.com

Created: 11/16/16

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