{"id":8330,"date":"2013-02-14T10:00:22","date_gmt":"2013-02-14T14:00:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=8330"},"modified":"2013-02-14T10:01:43","modified_gmt":"2013-02-14T14:01:43","slug":"why-schools-usually-say-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/why-schools-usually-say-no\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Schools Usually Say &#8220;No!&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; padding-top:10px;\" class=\"hupso-share-buttons\"><!-- Hupso Share Buttons - https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/ --><a class=\"hupso_pop\" href=\"https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/buttons\/gallery\/share-button-gray.png\" style=\"border:0px\" alt=\"Share\" \/><\/a><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var hupso_services=new Array(\"Twitter\",\"Facebook\",\"Google Plus\",\"Pinterest\",\"Linkedin\",\"StumbleUpon\",\"Digg\",\"Reddit\",\"Bebo\",\"Delicious\");var hupso_icon_type = \"labels\";var hupso_background=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_border=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_image_folder_url = \"\";var hupso_twitter_via=\"wrightslaw\";var hupso_url=\"\";var hupso_title=\"Why%20Schools%20Usually%20Say%20%22No%21%22\";<\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/js\/share.js\"><\/script><!-- Hupso Share Buttons --><\/div><blockquote><p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright\" style=\"border: 1px solid black;margin-left: 5px;margin-right: 5px;float: right\" src=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/nltr\/img\/boy.teacher.learn.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"141\" height=\"180\" \/>My son is going to middle school. Same district, new school, just blocks apart. His 1:1 (same para for 3 years) has been the best thing that has come into his life ever.<\/p>\n<p>We want his para to follow him to middle school.<\/p>\n<p>The Special Education Director says this para can not follow him. He will have a few different paras at his new school. Can we get around this?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>When parents ask for a specific service or person, schools usually say &#8220;No.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>They don&#8217;t want to be in the position of doing what a parent asks, even when the parent makes a reasonable request. Even though the IEP team may work well together, it is a small part of a large system.<\/p>\n<p>If you have an unusual request, sometimes you run into an &#8220;invisible administrator.&#8221; You need to learn about school culture and the rules of the game.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>You need to learn about school systems and how your district resolves problems and makes decision.\u00a0 Your district is a bureaucracy with rules, customs and traditions, and a chain of command.<\/p>\n<p>When you learn the rules, you will be a more effective advocate and negotiator for your child.<\/p>\n<p><strong>It&#8217;s time to learn the rules of the game!<\/strong> Turn to Chapter 4 in your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/store\/feta.html\"><span style=\"color: #000080\">Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy<\/span><\/a> book.<\/p>\n<p>You will learn about:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Gatekeepers<\/li>\n<li>One-Size-Fits-All (OSFA) special ed programs<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;We can&#8217;t make exceptions&#8221; rules<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>See <a href=\"http:\/\/www.fetaweb.com\/02\/10_reasons.no.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080\">&#8220;10 Reasons Why Schools Say No&#8221;<\/span><\/a> here: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.fetaweb.com\/02\/10_reasons.no.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080\">http:\/\/www.fetaweb.com\/02\/10_reasons.no.htm<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Next, read <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=66\"><span style=\"color: #000080\">&#8220;Why &#8216;No&#8217; May Not Really Mean &#8216;No'&#8221;<\/span><\/a> here <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=66\"><span style=\"color: #000080\">https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=66<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p>To learn more about how to help the school WANT to help your child, review the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/nltr\/12\/nl.1016.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080\">Special Ed Advocate, Oct. 16, 2012<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My son is going to middle school. Same district, new school, just blocks apart. His 1:1 (same para for 3 years) has been the best thing that has come into <a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/why-schools-usually-say-no\/\">Continue Reading \u2192<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,136],"tags":[155,1001,180],"class_list":["post-8330","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-advocacy","category-strategies","tag-gatekeeper","tag-rules-of-the-game","tag-school-culture"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8330","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8330"}],"version-history":[{"count":29,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8330\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9299,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8330\/revisions\/9299"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8330"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8330"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8330"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}