{"id":6249,"date":"2011-12-22T09:00:12","date_gmt":"2011-12-22T13:00:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=6249"},"modified":"2011-12-05T16:27:54","modified_gmt":"2011-12-05T20:27:54","slug":"how-not-to-be-a-yappy-parent","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/how-not-to-be-a-yappy-parent\/","title":{"rendered":"How NOT to be a Yappy Parent"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; padding-top:10px;\" class=\"hupso-share-buttons\"><!-- Hupso Share Buttons - https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/ --><a class=\"hupso_pop\" href=\"https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/buttons\/gallery\/share-button-gray.png\" style=\"border:0px\" alt=\"Share\" \/><\/a><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var hupso_services=new Array(\"Twitter\",\"Facebook\",\"Google Plus\",\"Pinterest\",\"Linkedin\",\"StumbleUpon\",\"Digg\",\"Reddit\",\"Bebo\",\"Delicious\");var hupso_icon_type = \"labels\";var hupso_background=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_border=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_image_folder_url = \"\";var hupso_twitter_via=\"wrightslaw\";var hupso_url=\"\";var hupso_title=\"How%20NOT%20to%20be%20a%20Yappy%20Parent\";<\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/js\/share.js\"><\/script><!-- Hupso Share Buttons --><\/div><p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft\" style=\"margin: 5px 8px; border: 1px solid black; float: left;\" src=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/nltr\/img\/adults\/difficult.mtg.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"200\" height=\"129\" \/>Want to learn how to NOT shoot yourself in the foot by being the &#8220;know-it-all&#8221; parent at IEP meetings?<\/p>\n<p>This may sound like a silly game.\u00a0 But you can learn how to hit a home run in this game and build a healthy working relationship with the school.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><strong>A Perception Problem<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>We believe that parents are natural advocates for their children.\u00a0 You have your child&#8217;s best interests at heart. You were your child&#8217;s first teacher.\u00a0 And yes, you are the expert on your child.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But, if you take over the role of &#8220;expert&#8221; at meetings, you leave no role for the educators.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Think about how you are perceived by school people. The yappy parent?\u00a0 The know-it-all?<\/p>\n<p>If school people feel threatened or disrespected by you, they will look for a way to shoot you down.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>If an educator came into your home and told you how to decorate the rooms and what color to paint the walls, would YOU be happy?<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><strong>A Winning Strategy &#8211; Asking the Right Questions<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>One strategy for winning this game is to ask questions. Better yet &#8211; learn what questions NOT to ask.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Say thank you<\/strong> &#8211; a good way to create school advocates for your child.\u00a0 Does it really matter who comes up with the solution as long as your child&#8217;s needs are met.<\/p>\n<p>Learn how to use the strategy of asking the right questions to identify solutions to problems.\u00a0 <strong>Learn how to ask questions, get services.<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/info\/advo.parent.askqs.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Read more&#8230;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Want to learn how to NOT shoot yourself in the foot by being the &#8220;know-it-all&#8221; parent at IEP meetings? This may sound like a silly game.\u00a0 But you can learn <a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/how-not-to-be-a-yappy-parent\/\">Continue Reading \u2192<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,136,643],"tags":[844,843],"class_list":["post-6249","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-advocacy","category-strategies","category-success-stories","tag-parent-advocates","tag-parent-as-expert"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6249","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6249"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6249\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6259,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6249\/revisions\/6259"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6249"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6249"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6249"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}