{"id":5475,"date":"2011-08-03T12:35:09","date_gmt":"2011-08-03T16:35:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=5475"},"modified":"2014-07-16T11:15:19","modified_gmt":"2014-07-16T15:15:19","slug":"all-wound-up-with-no-idea-where-to-go","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/all-wound-up-with-no-idea-where-to-go\/","title":{"rendered":"All Wound Up &#8211; With No Idea Where to Go"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; padding-top:10px;\" class=\"hupso-share-buttons\"><!-- Hupso Share Buttons - https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/ --><a class=\"hupso_pop\" href=\"https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/buttons\/gallery\/share-button-gray.png\" style=\"border:0px\" alt=\"Share\" \/><\/a><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var hupso_services=new Array(\"Twitter\",\"Facebook\",\"Google Plus\",\"Pinterest\",\"Linkedin\",\"StumbleUpon\",\"Digg\",\"Reddit\",\"Bebo\",\"Delicious\");var hupso_icon_type = \"labels\";var hupso_background=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_border=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_image_folder_url = \"\";var hupso_twitter_via=\"wrightslaw\";var hupso_url=\"\";var hupso_title=\"All%20Wound%20Up%20-%20With%20No%20Idea%20Where%20to%20Go\";<\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/js\/share.js\"><\/script><!-- Hupso Share Buttons --><\/div><blockquote><p>Help!\u00a0 I need an attorney!<\/p>\n<p>Last year my son&#8217;s special ed reading teacher did NOT follow thru with the program in his IEP. The school said they did! Last September, the teacher gave him a toy gun for a reading reward. Why on earth would she give him a &#8220;gun&#8221; &#8211; he would get in trouble with the school weapons policies. She claims she didn&#8217;t. She screamed at him all last year &#8211; he was terrified of her. The school says I should &#8220;get over it.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Wow! Sounds like you are all wound up with no idea where to go.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft\" style=\"border: 1px solid black; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 10px; float: left; margin-bottom: 5px;\" src=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/images\/mom.upset.JPG\" alt=\"\" width=\"130\" height=\"139\" \/>I do not see anything in your question that makes me think you need an attorney.<\/p>\n<p>You DO need to separate the issues. You need to focus on what you can change and learn how to make those changes happen. Here&#8217;s how.<\/p>\n<p>First &#8211; consider last year old news. You MUST concentrate on the IEP for the coming year. Read it again.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>It may be that the IEP has some vague language in it.\u00a0 If that is the case you may be reading it one way and school personnel may be reading it in a different way. Instead of micromanaging the instruction, focus on whether or not the goals in the IEP are met.\u00a0 Reaching the goals is the important part.<\/p>\n<p>You need to make sure you have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/info\/iep.goals.plan.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">SMART goals<\/span><\/a> in your son&#8217;s IEP and that it is very clear if <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/info\/progress.index.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">progress<\/span><\/a> is being made to meet these goals. An advocate may be able to help you write clearer IEP goals or request certain progress monitoring tools.\u00a0 If you contact an advocate, I think she will also tell you to <strong>let go of your anger and focus on your son&#8217;s education.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You are complaining about old issues and asking how to control the school staff. You have told me nothing about <strong>your son&#8217;s educational needs.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s time focus on your son&#8217;s needs and learn the skills you need to make things change for the better. Read <em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/store\/feta2.sm.html\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy<\/span><\/a><\/em>. It will teach you how to focus your energy. It will help you &#8220;unwind&#8221; and turn your emotions into skilled advocacy. <strong><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If teacher screaming is really the case, it is a problem that needs to be addressed. If your son will have this teacher again this coming year, then plan to have a nice pleasant talk with teacher at the beginning of the year.\u00a0 Explain to her that your son is much more receptive to instruction when adults keep their voices at a conversational level.<\/p>\n<p>If there are problems after that, you should address it in a letter. <strong>Document your concerns in writing when they happen<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Look in the letter writing sections of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Wrightslaw<\/span><\/a> and the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.fetaweb.com\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Fetaweb<\/span><\/a> websites for explanations of how to use letters effectively. You still have time before school begins this year to review the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/nltr\/11\/ss.short.course.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Summer School Short Course in Letter Writing<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Help!\u00a0 I need an attorney! Last year my son&#8217;s special ed reading teacher did NOT follow thru with the program in his IEP. The school said they did! Last September, <a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/all-wound-up-with-no-idea-where-to-go\/\">Continue Reading \u2192<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":24,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,150,136],"tags":[1303,792,560],"class_list":["post-5475","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-advocacy","category-letters","category-strategies","tag-documentation","tag-effective-advocacy-strategies","tag-letter-writing"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5475","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/24"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5475"}],"version-history":[{"count":23,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5475\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11653,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5475\/revisions\/11653"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5475"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5475"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5475"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}