{"id":3866,"date":"2010-09-07T11:23:40","date_gmt":"2010-09-07T15:23:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=3866"},"modified":"2010-09-07T11:23:40","modified_gmt":"2010-09-07T15:23:40","slug":"setting-high-expectations-and-a-strong-work-ethic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/setting-high-expectations-and-a-strong-work-ethic\/","title":{"rendered":"Setting High Expectations and a Strong Work Ethic"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; padding-top:10px;\" class=\"hupso-share-buttons\"><!-- Hupso Share Buttons - https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/ --><a class=\"hupso_pop\" href=\"https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/buttons\/gallery\/share-button-gray.png\" style=\"border:0px\" alt=\"Share\" \/><\/a><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var hupso_services=new Array(\"Twitter\",\"Facebook\",\"Google Plus\",\"Pinterest\",\"Linkedin\",\"StumbleUpon\",\"Digg\",\"Reddit\",\"Bebo\",\"Delicious\");var hupso_icon_type = \"labels\";var hupso_background=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_border=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_image_folder_url = \"\";var hupso_twitter_via=\"wrightslaw\";var hupso_url=\"\";var hupso_title=\"Setting%20High%20Expectations%20and%20a%20Strong%20Work%20Ethic%20\";<\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/js\/share.js\"><\/script><!-- Hupso Share Buttons --><\/div><p><strong><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft\" style=\"border: 1px solid black; margin: 3px 5px;float:left\" src=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/nltr\/img\/kids\/study.outside.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"99\" \/>Setting high expectations and a strong work ethic is really important  for the success of our students with special educational needs. <\/strong>Ann Marie understood the importance of keeping the standard highs.<\/p>\n<p>Ann Marie has 3 children with special needs.\u00a0 Two children have dyslexia and one was born with Spina Bifida.\u00a0 <strong><\/strong>&#8220;My late husband and I always instilled in our children the value of doing a complete and good job. We had three guidelines  to help our children achieve success.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><strong>You Must Complete the Assignment<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Guideline #1:<\/strong> One guideline in our home &#8212; It&#8217;s okay if it takes you longer to do it, so long as you complete the assignment.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>When our children, due to their disability, were unable to create strategies for learning, we taught them specific strategies so they could become independent learners.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #000080;\">&#8220;No pain, No gain!&#8221;<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Guideline #2:<\/strong> We also had a motto &#8220;No pain, No gain!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I remember that I had to study to get good grades.\u00a0 I told my children that studying for tests was like climbing a mountain.\u00a0 As you continue to study and teach yourself the materials, you felt higher and higher until you conquered the mountain.<\/p>\n<p>One of my daughters always liked to pretend that she was a teacher.\u00a0 I told her that when studying for tests, she should pretend that she was the teacher and she would be teaching the materials to her pretend students.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Education is the Door to Opportunity<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Guideline #3:<\/strong> Education was the door to opportunity for our children&#8217;s future. We have a great country and education is available in various forms to all. This was the 3rd motto or guide in our home.<\/p>\n<p>My child with Spina Bifida could not walk or use her right hand\/arm and she had a short term memory deficit due to the VP shunt.\u00a0 She did not have dyslexia like her brother and sister. For her, the goal of being a good student was really important.\u00a0 She said this would make her more like the other students (who could walk).<\/p>\n<p>She was mainstreamed and had related services and supports.\u00a0 She always needed extended time for tests because it did take her longer.\u00a0 But, she always completed the work.<\/p>\n<p>For her, college was a tremendous success.\u00a0 Although she used 5 years instead of 4 years to complete her BA, she did it with honors!<\/p>\n<p>My other daughter with dyslexia took the G-Mats 3 times, but she did it!\u00a0 She got into a quality MBA program.<\/p>\n<p>She has recently earned a corporate position in a major national company, because she worked hard.\u00a0 She was very persistent and focused.<\/p>\n<p>My son with dyslexia developed his own company while in high school and became #1 in international E-commerce in DECA while a senior in high school.\u00a0 He excells in business.\u00a0 He was accepted to a high rung university due to his self directed accomplishments as a high school student, in spite of lower ACT\/SAT scores!<\/p>\n<p>He found his \u201cisland of competence\u201d and I supported his efforts.\u00a0 He did all of this while overcoming the death of his father at the age of 8 years old.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Keep the Standards High<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Yes, keep the standards high for your children:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>resist doing it for them<\/li>\n<li> resist making life easy<\/li>\n<li>learn what the child needs to be successful<\/li>\n<li>provide the needed supports<\/li>\n<li>gauge the support and challenge to the child&#8217;s temperament<\/li>\n<li>reward for really good work<\/li>\n<li>meet with the child study team for the best programs you can get<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Hat tip to Ann Maire Agnello, parent and professional advocate, for her success story. Read more <a href=\"http:\/\/www.fetaweb.com\/success.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Success Stories<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Setting high expectations and a strong work ethic is really important for the success of our students with special educational needs. 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