{"id":14118,"date":"2017-02-02T09:00:25","date_gmt":"2017-02-02T13:00:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=13304"},"modified":"2018-05-07T13:02:49","modified_gmt":"2018-05-07T17:02:49","slug":"give-this-mom-whatever-she-wants","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/give-this-mom-whatever-she-wants\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;Give This Mom Whatever She Wants!&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; padding-top:10px;\" class=\"hupso-share-buttons\"><!-- Hupso Share Buttons - https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/ --><a class=\"hupso_pop\" href=\"https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/buttons\/gallery\/share-button-gray.png\" style=\"border:0px\" alt=\"Share\" \/><\/a><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var hupso_services=new Array(\"Twitter\",\"Facebook\",\"Google Plus\",\"Pinterest\",\"Linkedin\",\"StumbleUpon\",\"Digg\",\"Reddit\",\"Bebo\",\"Delicious\");var hupso_icon_type = \"labels\";var hupso_background=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_border=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_image_folder_url = \"\";var hupso_twitter_via=\"wrightslaw\";var hupso_url=\"\";var hupso_title=\"%22Give%20This%20Mom%20Whatever%20She%20Wants%21%22\";<\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/js\/share.js\"><\/script><!-- Hupso Share Buttons --><\/div><p>The school was writing off my child. They were doing as little as possible to educate her properly. I thought I was going to lose my mind trying to deal with them.<\/p>\n<p>But I learned my rights and how to use tactics and strategies to get a program to meet my daughter&#8217;s complex needs.<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/images\/istock\/girl.teen.books.class.jpg\" width=\"477\" height=\"321\" \/><\/p>\n<p>By middle school, the system gave up fighting with me. They tired of the IEP meetings I requested after every grading period when they tried to take away services, alleging Sarah was &#8220;doing fine.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>I knew it was a victory worth the fight when I found a sticky note in Sarah&#8217;s cumulative record folder that said, &#8220;Give this mom whatever she wants.&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Her kindergarten standardized test scores were horrible.<\/p>\n<p><em>The principal said she would <strong>never<\/strong> <strong>learn to read<\/strong>.<\/em> The system tried to shove her into an inclusion classroom.<\/p>\n<p>She had neurofibromatosis 1, ADHD, expressive language disorder, and central auditory processing disorder. She was also diagnosed with developmental delay, hearing loss in both ears, a speech impediment, and autism.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I found Wrightslaw and I did my research.<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I read all the information and resources Wrightslaw provided about accommodations and teaching methods.<\/li>\n<li>I independently researched everything I could find on my child\u2019s disabilities and disorders.<\/li>\n<li>I learned my parent rights and responsibilities in the law.<\/li>\n<li>I learned what the school could and could not do.<\/li>\n<li>I learned excellent strategies to use at IEP meetings.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>When I implemented these strategies, they were a godsend, but angered people at IEP meetings.<\/p>\n<p>As you taught me, I took a notepad with me to the IEP meetings and made two columns:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat Mom Wants\u201d and \u201cWhat School Says.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I used <span style=\"color: #0066cc;\"><a style=\"color: #0066cc;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/store\/feta2.sm.store.html\"><em><span style=\"color: #0066cc;\">Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy<\/span><\/em><\/a><\/span> to learn how to take control and maintain control at IEP meetings.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>I Remember When<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>There are days when I want to go back to her kindergarten teacher and show her college student, successfully employed, self-advocate Sarah.<\/p>\n<p>I want to say &#8211;<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>Meet Sarah.<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>Remember the girl you said was mentally disabled and would never learn to read? You told me that if I loved her, I would place her into an inclusion classroom.<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>Sarah reads on grade level based on methods I researched when the standard methods failed. Sarah graduated high school. Sarah now has a 3.0 in college. <\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>It\u2019s a good thing I ignored you and your &#8220;experts.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Learn the strategies this mom, the parent advocate, used to get the program her daughter needed.<\/p>\n<p>Find out where Sarah is today.<\/p>\n<p>Read the entire <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/info\/advo.success.ross.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><span style=\"color: #0066cc;\">Success Story: Learning the Skills, Attacking the Obstacles! A Victory Worth the Fight<\/span><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The school was writing off my child. They were doing as little as possible to educate her properly. 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