{"id":10655,"date":"2014-01-16T09:00:18","date_gmt":"2014-01-16T13:00:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=10655"},"modified":"2014-01-13T16:39:14","modified_gmt":"2014-01-13T20:39:14","slug":"i-dont-understand-why-the-school-wont","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/i-dont-understand-why-the-school-wont\/","title":{"rendered":"I Don&#8217;t Understand Why the School Won&#8217;t&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; padding-top:10px;\" class=\"hupso-share-buttons\"><!-- Hupso Share Buttons - https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/ --><a class=\"hupso_pop\" href=\"https:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/buttons\/gallery\/share-button-gray.png\" style=\"border:0px\" alt=\"Share\" \/><\/a><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var hupso_services=new Array(\"Twitter\",\"Facebook\",\"Google Plus\",\"Pinterest\",\"Linkedin\",\"StumbleUpon\",\"Digg\",\"Reddit\",\"Bebo\",\"Delicious\");var hupso_icon_type = \"labels\";var hupso_background=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_border=\"#FFFFFF\";var hupso_image_folder_url = \"\";var hupso_twitter_via=\"wrightslaw\";var hupso_url=\"\";var hupso_title=\"I%20Don%27t%20Understand%20Why%20the%20School%20Won%27t...\";<\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/js\/share.js\"><\/script><!-- Hupso Share Buttons --><\/div><blockquote><p>Can you tell me if I have any rights?\u00a0 Here is my issue: potty training.<\/p>\n<p>My daughter is 8, non verbal and developmentally delayed. She wants to be potty trained. At home she signs when she needs to go. At school they ignore her signs and tell me they can&#8217;t possibly take her once an hour. There are four aides and one teacher for 9 children. I just don&#8217;t understand why someone can&#8217;t take her to the potty as needed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Your issue is about potty training at school for your daughter &#8211; a legitimate concern. Parents of children with disabilities have hundreds of different issues. There are always disagreements with the school.<\/p>\n<p><strong><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright\" style=\"border: 1px solid black; margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px; float: right;\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/nltr\/img\/letter.writing8.jpg\" width=\"105\" height=\"150\" \/>This is the REAL issue &#8211;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0&#8211; resolving a problem while maintaining a healthy working relationship with school personnel.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Here are the first steps you should take to resolve a problem.\u00a0 These steps apply to the issue of potty training &#8230;and many other disagreements you may need to resolve with your child&#8217;s teacher or school staff.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>1. Write a letter to your child&#8217;s IEP team.<\/p>\n<p>2. Describe the problem.<\/p>\n<p>3. Ask the team to develop AND implement a strategy to &#8230;. (potty train your daughter).<\/p>\n<p>4.\u00a0 Explain the consequences to your child, the school staff, family and friends if your child&#8230;. (does not learn to use the potty now).<\/p>\n<p>5. Include a little information about the background history of your concern. Describe how you deal with the issue at home.<\/p>\n<p>6. Describe what you would like the school to do for your child and why.\u00a0 Provide information to back up your suggestions.<\/p>\n<p>7.\u00a0 Request an IEP meeting to review your child&#8217;s goals and revise your child&#8217;s IEP to include a goal for &#8230;. (potty training).<\/p>\n<p>8. Create a written record of your request and what each staff member is responsible for doing.<\/p>\n<p>9.\u00a0 Use a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/advoc\/tips\/bonnell.iep.attach.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">parent attachment form<\/span><\/a> during the IEP meeting.\u00a0 Here are several good forms &#8211; or develop a form of your own.\u00a0 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/advoc\/tips\/bonnell.iep.attach.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/advoc\/tips\/bonnell.iep.attach.htm<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=2157\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">PWN &#8211; A Powerful Tool When Skillfully Used<\/span><\/a>\u00a0 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=2157\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/blog\/?p=2157<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p>10.\u00a0 After the meeting, write a short thank you note that summarizes what the team agreed to do. Be sure to offer to help.<\/p>\n<p>Agreements always need to be in writing so a nice thank you note is a good way to create the initial record.<\/p>\n<p>More on effective <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/info\/advo.index.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Advocacy strategies<\/span><\/a> and advocating through <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wrightslaw.com\/info\/ltrs.index.htm\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Letter Writing<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Can you tell me if I have any rights?\u00a0 Here is my issue: potty training. My daughter is 8, non verbal and developmentally delayed. 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